Healing My Relationship With Wigs

Two weeks ago, I got a package in the mail that I had been anxiously awaiting.  I took a deep breath before unwrapping it, nervous, hopeful.  It was like I was carefully measuring hope, not wanting to get TOO hopeful and be disappointed, but still really hoping. That package was a wig and I have had a complicated relationship with wigs. When I first took … Continue reading Healing My Relationship With Wigs

Reframing Double Standards and Painting Cabinets

Without a doubt, one of the most difficult things about conversion that I’ve had to work on and help my children with is the reality of double standards.  It’s one of those things that I think every Orthodox conversion candidate has to come to a place of acceptance with because it’s not something we can change. A perfect example was this weekend on Shabbat.  We … Continue reading Reframing Double Standards and Painting Cabinets

Character at Birth or at Rebirth?

It’s almost Shabbat.  I can feel it.  Just a few more hours of work and then I go home to cook and prepare.  We’re squeezing in one last Shabbat with regular challah before turning the kitchen over Saturday night and Sunday and my planned meal is basically a comforting carb feast.  I can almost taste the kugel! In the meantime, on some good advice, I’ve … Continue reading Character at Birth or at Rebirth?

The Power of What Is Hidden

A wise friend of mine is fond of saying, “There is potency in what is hidden.” The culture around us seems to leave little to the imagination, from what someone has for dinner to their innermost thoughts, there is a pressure to share for attention.  Some people have become celebrities for little more than sharing every intimate detail of their lives, allowing the world to … Continue reading The Power of What Is Hidden

A Day Without Women…and the Fast of Esther

One of the benefits of going to work so early that it’s still dark is that I am able to get in a quick meal before a daytime fast begins.  I scarfed a bowl of oatmeal and thought about Ta’anit Esther. Esther was a leader, but a leader within a pretty brutally sexist regime.  Her husband, the King, had removed his previous wife Vashti, for … Continue reading A Day Without Women…and the Fast of Esther