Two weeks ago, I got a package in the mail that I had been anxiously awaiting. I took a deep breath before unwrapping it, nervous, hopeful. It was like I was carefully measuring hope, not wanting to get TOO hopeful and be disappointed, but still really hoping. That package was a wig and I have had a complicated relationship with wigs. When I first took … Continue reading Healing My Relationship With Wigs
Recently, an app came out for Taharas Hamispacha (Family Purity) that has proved to be really controversial in Orthodox circles. The app aims to reduce the discomfort of women who need Rabbinical opinions regarding these laws by allowing them to submit photos for a Rabbi to look at and give an opinion rather than having to take something to their local Rabbi. There are various … Continue reading Relationships with Rabbis
Without a doubt, one of the most difficult things about conversion that I’ve had to work on and help my children with is the reality of double standards. It’s one of those things that I think every Orthodox conversion candidate has to come to a place of acceptance with because it’s not something we can change. A perfect example was this weekend on Shabbat. We … Continue reading Reframing Double Standards and Painting Cabinets
Things are going VERY well. We have secured the Shabbat RV 2.0. We survived Passover and even enjoyed it. I’m still sick with some kind of cold/flu, but I’m on the mend. We’re even preparing for a weekend trip down to sunny WARM Florida to visit family. I have no reason to feel the way I’m feeling. And yet, that’s kind of how it works. … Continue reading When a Doubt Sneaks In…
It’s almost Shabbat. I can feel it. Just a few more hours of work and then I go home to cook and prepare. We’re squeezing in one last Shabbat with regular challah before turning the kitchen over Saturday night and Sunday and my planned meal is basically a comforting carb feast. I can almost taste the kugel! In the meantime, on some good advice, I’ve … Continue reading Character at Birth or at Rebirth?
A wise friend of mine is fond of saying, “There is potency in what is hidden.” The culture around us seems to leave little to the imagination, from what someone has for dinner to their innermost thoughts, there is a pressure to share for attention. Some people have become celebrities for little more than sharing every intimate detail of their lives, allowing the world to … Continue reading The Power of What Is Hidden
One of the benefits of going to work so early that it’s still dark is that I am able to get in a quick meal before a daytime fast begins. I scarfed a bowl of oatmeal and thought about Ta’anit Esther. Esther was a leader, but a leader within a pretty brutally sexist regime. Her husband, the King, had removed his previous wife Vashti, for … Continue reading A Day Without Women…and the Fast of Esther